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by Shallyn (Texas) In 1992 after having my first child, my Mother decides to tell me that my Dad is not my biological father. My Mother told me this out of her own hurt and bitterness toward my Dad, hoping by telling me this it would hurt him instead.
I felt myself falling into a depression shortly after but mentally blocked it from my mind knowing I had to take care of my daughter.
Seven months ago, the son of the couple located me on Facebook. Much to my surprise, after some prodding and pleading on my part for information of long ago, he confessed that he was my real father. I just need an open honest conversation and then I can try to heal. My whole life she was selfless and gave to everyone else before herself.
Excited to finally catch-up with him and see how everyone was doing, I soon found out that his mom & dad divorced years ago, both remarried, she eventually passed away and he was now 80 and crippled. I vowed to not loose touch again, as he was living alone and enjoyed our reminiscing and talks as much as I did. He & my mom had an affair many years ago and she became pregnant. Its just so crazy to think this actually happened, so hard to believe. I'm not sure what I am being taught yet but this is a horrible way to teach someone something, espically when they didn't create the situation. I don't understand all the societal pressures she faced because things were very different.
After moving several times, I lost track of my parent's friends. A secret like this should never have been kept for so long. Mine tried comforting by telling me " you're still alive". I don't know about others, but I feel like the life I lived has been half a life. I kind of feel like my pushing could be making her cancer worse from the stress.
Afterall, they were much older now and they too had left the area. And even the half I did get to live has been one of agony. I think I'm just hurt she isn't just saying, I'm sorry, here is why I did it. Thinking of your mom as your protector, as she naturally should be, and having something like this happen is very hard to deal with.
I grew up with loving parents and two older sisters.
The difference in age between the middle sister and myself is 12 years, so in my mind I've always thought that I was probably an accident, although my mom told me a good story when I asked.
I never felt anything but love and nurture from both my parents and my sisters.Hi, In re: your comment to Tricia about the men keeping the secret for the woman, I keep thinking that , too!For all I know, my Mom manipulated by bio Dad into not contacting me and is asking me not to contact him.This site is great and helps us all through these scenarios.Hugs, Traci At 52 years old, I recently got the shock of a lifetime.